I’m of the opinion that dating is more difficult when you’re intelligent. There are too many factors that need to be right to stimulate all the mental and physical aspects.
At some point no matter how optimistic I am, a little frustration sets in. Friends are all settling down, and events become mostly couples. I walk in as the single guy. There’s a mix of living vicariously through me and wondering why I’m not one of the coupled. I explain to them it’s because I know what I want and won’t settle for less. But I don’t get too far into that topic because some have settled.
I aspire to great things, and those which are fully in my control are going well. But like everything in life there is an element of luck to dating. At some point you need to meet someone who inspires and enchants you. At least that’s my opinion. There’s nothing better than great chemistry. It makes me want to be a better person, and it brings out my hidden romantic side. Booty call girls don’t see that. Amazing girls do. I don’t just mean amazing in terms of looks. Yes, that’s a factor but it’s more about the conversation and interaction. Someone who “gets” me and clicks with me. We can be sarcastic, we can tease each other, we can say inappropriate things and not play by “the rules” of dating. So she can text me the next day and say that she really enjoyed hanging out with me. I can admit that she’s hot and I look forward to seeing her soon. There’s no playing hard to get or any other rule book guidelines.
I enjoy pursuing success, and that’s a part of who I am. I’m an entrepreneurial and ambitious guy. And yes I appreciate that in my woman. But I can also respect the more old fashioned approach where she wants to stay home, have kids, and take care of her home/man/family. Both inclinations are equally sexy for different reasons.
I like hanging out with friends, drinking, and making a late night of it. I’d like someone who joins in, goes out with her girls, or doesn’t mind staying at home without making me feel bad for not being there. But while I might enjoy a late and crazy Friday night, I’m just as likely to want a casual Saturday night at home watching TV with her and drinking wine while she wears a sexy little outfit around the apartment.
I keep my body in good shape when I’m dating someone. Because I like her to do the same for me. And if I’m slipping, I welcome her to say so. Tell me that I better get to the gym if I want [fill in the blank]. Inspiration and motivation are fun, if both sides deliver that in an encouraging and fun way. I hope she keeps her body nice and enjoys showing it off to me. Little things like that keep the attraction and sensuality going strong.
I’m not religious. I do believe there’s a higher power and I pray to it sometimes to give thanks and to address the things I hope for in life. But I don’t think it’s Jesus or any of the other gods. I don’t mind if my girl believes in something more defined than me, as long as it’s not an issue that divides or causes friction. I believe in being a good person and I believe in karma. Those keep me on a moral path.
I’m good looking, above average in looks. Probably an 8. I’d like a girl who’s also an 8. Attractive, but also aware that there’s more than exterior beauty that attracts someone. Personality and character matter more. They can make a person more attractive.
Anyway, that’s my rambling about some topics that play a part in dating, chemistry, and mutual interest. If you feel like writing me I’d just ask that you don’t give me a form letter, a one line email, or the worst kind of email…the “got a pic?” as the only content. Looks do matter, but making a good and unique first impression will show your character. You’ll get what you give.
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